Filters installed. Devices monitored. Online safety taught. All of this, and children can still make poor choices—like sending nudes. So, how do we respond when we learn of this behavior?
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Dear Savvy: Help! My child is sending nudes. What should I do? I’m shocked. My daughter is only eleven-years-old. I did everything by the books. I even kept her phone at night, and this still happened.
Dear Listener,
As parents, we need to be prepared for the possibility that our child may still sext or send nudes. Even when we’ve communicated the dangers. It may feel counterintuitive but it’s a good idea to s-l-o-w down when a crisis like this hits. Ask questions. Find out why. Don’t assume you know the answer. Listen with love. Do all you can to preserve the parent/child relationship.
Here is what we discussed today:
- Safety first. Seek to understand the underlying reason for the behavior.
- Who to tell. Depending on the behavior, other parents, school admin staff, and/or the authorities may need to be included.
- When to seek added support. Recognize red flags that indicate grooming or other dangers.
- Tell it like it is (in a loving, caring manner). Most teens and preteens don’t realize their nudes are considered child pornography.
“Less than 8% of girls shared explicit pictures because they wanted to; the rest did so because of a desire to please, acquiesce to, or avoid conflict with a boy.” —study conducted by Sara Thomas of Northwestern University
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Links/Resources
Ep. #3-20, Dear Savvy: How do I talk to my child about sexting without being awkward?
Article: What is Revenge Porn? by hopefulmom.net
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