Dear Savvy: Can moms talk to boys about pornography?

Are you a mom to boys? Do you worry about helping them mature into sexually responsible teens and adults? How often do you defer to dad for “The Talk?” Have you ever questioned, can moms talk to boys about pornography? If so, you’re not alone. 

This episode is part of our #DearSavvy series. Sometimes you just want a quick answer to a burning question. These shorter episodes are designed to give you just that. Tune in to the podcast to hear the whole scoop, and check out the show notes for helpful tools and information. If you’d like to submit a question, click here to Contact Us. 

Dear Savvy: Is it important for kids to hear from both parents about sex and pornography? Or should moms just talk to daughters? And dads just talk to their sons? And what if you’re a single parent? Should you bring in someone else to help with the conversation?

Dear Listener,

Both parents offer a unique perspective. If it’s available kids should hear from both mom and dad about sex and pornography. Above all else, know that you are qualified to have this conversation. As your child’s parent, you are their best teacher. You may bring a trusted friend into your circle if you feel it is in the best interest of your child. But mostly, look for natural ways to bring up the conversation in everyday experiences. 

Here’s what we discussed today: 

• Move beyond “The Talk.” Look for natural moments to bring up conversations about sex and pornography without shame.

• Meet your child where they’re at. There may be times when a child prefers to talk to someone of the same gender. 

• Confidence grows over time. The sex talk can feel awkward and embarrassing. But with the right attitude, it gets easier. 

• Both parents offer valuable perspectives.  Moms can often reach boys in ways that dad can’t and vice-versa. 

“To be a mother of a son is one of the most important things you can do to change the world. Raise them to respect women, raise them to stand up for others, raise them to be kind.” –Shannon L. Alder, Author

Episode challenge

This week, chat with another parent. Ask how they talk to their kids. Find out if they defer to their kids’ mom or dad. If so, why? Think about how you can strengthen and encourage each other to start the conversation more frequently. To help, download our FREE guide, 10 Natural Ways to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography We also recommend, How Do We Talk About Pornography?, from Barb at Hopefulmom.net

Do you have a question for Dear Savvy? You can click here to Contact Us, email us at admin@parentsaware.info, or submit your question through any of our social media platforms. We’d love to hear from you!

Links/Resources

Ep. #2-10, Addressing Masturbation Without Shame

Ep. #2-12, Sex Talks for Daughters with Dina Alexander

Ep. #2-21, 10 Natural Ways to Start the Porn Talk

How Do We Talk About Pornography?, from Barb at Hopefulmom.net

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