The Power of a Single Compliment [Reader Story]

The Power of a Single Compliment [Reader Story]

We teach our kids to be polite using phrases like please, thank you and I’m sorry.  But beyond the surface these expressions really denote respect and attentiveness to those we are speaking with. They are powerful communication tools. When used appropriately, these three expressions can break down barriers, make up for misplaced words and even defuse hostile situations.  Doubtful? Give ‘em a try. What do good manners have to do with helping children reject pornography? We know that the porn industry is targeting kids online. Its powerful influence on developing minds means that kids need their parents’ guidance and advice today more than ever. But sometimes, we get so anxious for our kids to know where we stand on an issue that we overlook what other negative messages we might be sending. To become true allies with our kids we need to work to keep our communication patterns in check. In other words, we need to remember our manners. Read to the end...
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Sticks and Stones —Teaching kids to follow their own path at Camp

Sticks and Stones —Teaching kids to follow their own path at Camp

The camping gear is in a haphazard pile by the front door when my husband starts into his routine. He points repeatedly at his own nearly bald head and says to our son, “You do know where most of these scars have come from? —That’s right! — Scout Camp!” …he continues, “For some reason, when you put a group of 11 to 13 year-old boys next to rocks and sticks they all start acting Neanderthal. Eventually one of you ends up in the hospital getting stitches.” After a dramatic pause for effect, “So, what are you going to do when your friends start throwing rocks?” Our son answers sheepishly, “Not throw rocks.” “That’s right! And walk away”. “Now what are you going to do when your friends start swinging sticks?” The answer comes, “Not swing sticks Dad.” “That’s right, son. Now go to camp and have a great time!” I smile to myself, knowing how many times my husband has given...
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