What Would You Say? —Speaking to youth about pornography

What Would You Say? —Speaking to youth about pornography

For four days this week I have had the privilege of hanging out with some of the coolest teens you will ever meet. I am at the University of Waterloo, Ontario attending what is called YLC (Youth Leadership Conference) for the LDS church. There are nearly 600 youth in attendance. In observing these kids I can see that individually they are each shy, anxious and worried about life in one way or another. But they are also exceptionally bright, fun, exuberant and strong. Together they are a force to be reckoned with. The combined creativity and imagination among these youth is astounding! United in faith, they start each of the four days together in devotional, including song, prayer and inspirational messages. The evenings are taken up with dances and a variety night, showcasing the extraordinary talents of these young people. Throughout the day this force of energy commits to providing service in the community, participation in sports and recreational activities and attends additional...
Read More
How Talking about the News Can Protect Kids from Pornography

How Talking about the News Can Protect Kids from Pornography

Is the news getting you down lately? Here’s clever a trick! Use today’s bad news to bring about positive results in your family relationships. At your next sit down meal mention something that’s causing you concern from current news/events and ask your kids if they know anything about it. Let them respond in their own words, then see where the discussion leads. You may be surprised how many topics you will cover with one news story. The fact is, any time you can have an honest and frank discussion with your kids, regardless of the topic, you are building bonds and strengthening your relationship with them. These are the bonds that will make tackling any tough subject down the road easier to manage, including sexual intimacy and pornography. Note: Not all news is bad. Be sure to scroll to the end of this post for a couple of victories in the fight against pornography. Interestingly, when I became a parent, my first instinct was...
Read More
Sticks and Stones —Teaching kids to follow their own path at Camp

Sticks and Stones —Teaching kids to follow their own path at Camp

The camping gear is in a haphazard pile by the front door when my husband starts into his routine. He points repeatedly at his own nearly bald head and says to our son, “You do know where most of these scars have come from? —That’s right! — Scout Camp!” …he continues, “For some reason, when you put a group of 11 to 13 year-old boys next to rocks and sticks they all start acting Neanderthal. Eventually one of you ends up in the hospital getting stitches.” After a dramatic pause for effect, “So, what are you going to do when your friends start throwing rocks?” Our son answers sheepishly, “Not throw rocks.” “That’s right! And walk away”. “Now what are you going to do when your friends start swinging sticks?” The answer comes, “Not swing sticks Dad.” “That’s right, son. Now go to camp and have a great time!” I smile to myself, knowing how many times my husband has given...
Read More
Gardening and the Adolescent Brain

Gardening and the Adolescent Brain

“Adolescence is not a stage to simply get over, it’s a stage of life to cultivate well” Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. I’m curious to know how many days of perfect weather we are entitled to each year. Regardless the answer, I know today is one of them. Gorgeous warm sunshine tamed by a cool breeze. Plus, I am home— during perfect gardening conditions! Like many, I love the idea of gardening. It’s a way to cultivate beauty in my patch of real-estate. It also makes me feel I am in some small way living off the land. However, I have come to realize that I am no farmer—SHOCK! Rather, I am the average suburban mom who is looking for low maintenance everything in a losing battle to maintain my sanity. So, each year my garden and I agree on some adaptations to simplify life while holding fast to our mission of creating a small oasis of our very own. Having recently acquired Dan...
Read More
Speaking out in the Community

Speaking out in the Community

Our house is situated at the opening to a quiet crescent street. Quiet —that is— until school lets out and half the boys in seventh grade can be found running around our yard. When we bought the corner house fourteen years ago I was concerned about the traffic we might get, being at the crossroads. Turns out I love the fact that newcomers to the block think I run an after school program. Being involved in my kids’ lives is one of my greatest joys. Hearing them laugh, play and holler is the icing on the cake. Along with a quiet crescent, the house is situated a stone’s throw away from a fabulous elementary school. The staff is wonderful and the community involvement is high. Really, we lucked out when we set up shop here. Tonight I dug right into the community spirit by giving a short presentation to the Board members of our Student Community Council. My objective was to spread...
Read More